Stress Management – Part Three

May 19th, 2009

When one puts blinders on a horse, the affect is tunnel vision. The horse sees only that which is directly in front of him. The same is true for people. You may practice “selective hearing;” effectively “tuning out” that which you do not want to hear or feel you cannot handle. You may also have selective vision that helps you to ignore or virtually block out that which overwhelms you or drains you of energy.

These coping mechanisms may seem to work in your favor, but what you are actually doing is training your mind to see and hear less and less. Is it any wonder so many people need glasses and hearing aids? And, guess what? Blocking out your surroundings on a daily basis requires a tremendous amount of physical, mental, and emotional energy. Here are some of the ways that clutter and disorganization can affect your quality of life:

Having Clutter Can Make You Feel Tired and Lethargic: If you are living with clutter, chances are you do not have the energy needed to tackle it. That is because stagnant energy accumulates around clutter, causing fatigue and lethargy. Just looking at the clutter probably makes you feel tired and overwhelmed. Here is the good news…getting rid of the clutter will release pent up energy and revitalize your mind and body.

Having Clutter Can Keep You in the Past: When all of your available space is filled with memorabilia or “I might need it someday” clutter, there is no room for anything new to come into your life. Your thoughts tend to dwell in the past, and you feel bogged down with old issues and problems. Clearing your clutter allows you to breathe new life into your environment, clear away the cobwebs in your mind and begin to move forward. In order to create a better tomorrow, you must first release yesterday.

Having Clutter Can Affect Your Body Weight: Peter Walsh’s recently published book called, Does this clutter make my butt look fat? addresses the link between clutter and obesity. Body fat and clutter are both forms of self-protection. Layers of fat or clutter can become your safeguard against the shocks of life and serve to cushion you from the emotional issues you feel incapable of handling. Both provide a false sense of control. Clutter may also prevent you from preparing nutritional meals at home, making take-out, delivery, or restaurant dining habitual.

Having Clutter Can Confuse You: It is impossible to maintain clarity in your life when you are surrounded by clutter. Decision-making is more difficult because you cannot think clearly. When clutter is removed, so are the mental obstacles. Important life decisions become easier. Creating space in your environment automatically gives you the space in your mind to discover and manifest the life you really want.

Having Clutter Can Isolate You and Make You Feel Ashamed: Perhaps your home is so cluttered and messy that you are ashamed to invite people over and panic if someone shows up unannounced. Living like this is stressful and lonely. Why not decide to clear out the junk, feel good about yourself and your home, and regenerate your social life with confidence?

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Too Much Stuff or Not Enough Space?

April 27th, 2009

Thurston-Mason Senior News
Published: June 16, 2008

A driven professional with a demanding career, Janet, 57, spends most of her time and energy acclimating to a new job in a new city. Settling into her new apartment is going at a snail’s pace – the last thing she wants to do after a long day at the office is unpack boxes. To make matters worse, her new home is severely lacking in storage space. Many of her personal items will have to remain in boxes until she finds the time to create new storage solutions. Janet is tired of searching for things; she wants to get rid of the clutter and knows she needs help to finally get organized

Helen, 78, needs to move into assisted living following medical complications she suffered after a recent surgery. Her only daughter, Carol, lives 800 miles away and, due to her own family and career obligations, she is unable to make the trip to Seattle to help her mother with the move. This means Helen has to rely on whatever local assistance is available.

Margaret, 85, and her fiancée John, 92, plan to downsize from 2 one-bedroom apartments to 1 one-bedroom apartment when they move in together after their wedding in October. Having no room for two lifetimes worth of belongings in their new home, Margaret and John need help letting go of some of their past to make room for their new life together.

Buyers and Savers and Hoarders, Oh My!

Ask any realtor or house cleaner and they will tell you that, no matter the size of the home, most Americans have garages, attics, basements, and/or common living spaces crammed with clutter. According to a Boston Marketing Firm study, the average American burns 2 months a year looking for things they have, but can’t find.Can’t remember where you stored last-year’s Christmas lights? Buy new ones! Misplaced that electric bill? Pay a late fee! Hammer nowhere to be found? Borrow the neighbor’s!

So exactly why do we accumulate so much stuff? Why would we rather ignore the growing clutter than throw things away? And how do we regain control over our possessions?

Though there are those for whom the need to accumulate material possessions, or “hoard,” can run to the extreme, the majority of clutter cases fall into two main categories: Poor time management (“there just aren’t enough hours in the day to get everything done”) and a rationale often referred to as the Depression-Era Mentality (“Don’t throw that away – we might need it someday!”). And although people of all age groups are affected by clutter at some point during their lives, the number of seniors facing this uphill battle alone is on the rise.

The fact is, adults aged 55 and older are the fastest growing segment of the US population, and represent 40% of the consumerism market in the United States. This is a segment of the population with a lot of buying power, but seldom enough time, energy, or physical strength to manage their belongings. In the case of elderly seniors, some must face having to downsize from a home in which they’ve lived for 30, 40, even 50 years, to a smaller, more efficient apartment or condominium, a prospect that can be both emotional and overwhelming.And if they have no family or local support system, the task can seem downright impossible.

Who Can You Call?

Fortunately, there is help. In the effort to downsize and streamline their lives, many people are now seeking the help of Professional Organizers and Senior Move Managers. For those unfamiliar with these occupations, they are professionals whose job (nay, their passion?) is to help people with tasks such as packing, moving, unpacking, sorting, organizing, donating and situating the belongings they have accumulated over the years.

But good organizers go beyond the task itself. Quality Professional Organizers don’t clean, they transform, working closely with their client to create peaceful, personalized living spaces. Through the entire process they provide judgment-free encouragement and support, they keep their client upbeat and focused on the outcome, and they leave their client with a sense of relief, joy and elation.

Denial Ain’t Just A River

At this point you may be unsure as to whether or not you need professional help to gain control over your belongings. You may be thinking that your clutter isn’t all that bad – certainly not as bad as so-called “hoarders.” Well, here are a few questions to ask yourself, the answers to which may clear things up for you:

  1. Do I feel relaxed and at peace in my home?
  2. Am I proud to invite others into my home?
  3. I’m moving soon – do I have everything organized and under control?
  4. If the power goes out can I navigate my home without tripping or falling on clutter?
  5. In an emergency, can I quickly locate important papers and memorabilia?
  6. Does my one car fit in my two-car garage?

If you answered “NO” to any of these questions, it might be time to give that Professional Organizer in your neighborhood a call.

Elain Carroll, owner of Habitat For Your Sanity, is a Professional Organizer and a Certified Relocation and Transition Specialist (CRTS), located in Olympia, WA. Habitat for Your Sanity is a member of the National Association of Senior Move Managers (NASMM) and the National Association of Professional Organizers.

For more information about how Habitat For Your Sanity can help you, contact Elain at 360-866-0928 or visit the Habitat For Your Sanity website at www.habitatforyoursanity.com.

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